Thrive Like Wildfire

Hello, my fellow Embers! I am excited for this to be my first official post! I racked my brain about the topic until I finally decided that it didn’t matter what the topic was as long as I sat down and did the d*mn thing.

I figure there is no better way to start our journeys than to purge the crap. I don’t know about you but for me… I have a lot of crap in my life, and it comes in many different forms. Now three weeks ago, I didn’t think that was the case. I thought that I was living a normal life and I just wasn’t as good at living life as other people, and that is why I am constantly exhausted. But one day I saw a Tiktok from a girl who said Mel Robbins and Kylie Perkins changed her life and I’ll try anything once. So I gave Mel a google and found out she had a podcast which is perfect for my job because I can just listen as I work, and boy did I. The first podcast I listened to was on her research on The Let Them Theory which is all about not giving your power to other people and funneling it back into yourself. At the time that felt a bit aggressive for a beginner but she captivated me so I followed her and I started listening to every new podcast she put out. I eventually found a podcast where she interviewed a woman named Martha Beck who talks a lot about finding your true purpose in life and something clicked… and then I listened to it three more times. I didn’t quite understand how to apply it but I knew then that I want what she has. She just seems to be a bright flame in the darkness of this world even if she is a little woowoo hippy for my tastes.

For the last three weeks, I have been obsessed with self-help books and finding the path that will lead to my purpose like Martha. I started reading The Let Them Theory (but I am not done yet so no spoilers!) and I read a book called The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck by Sarah Knight, not to be confused with the book by Mark Manson. I figured it is time to find out what Mel’s book is all about and maybe the two combined might clear enough crap so that the beginning of my path is finally visible. Sarah Knight’s book is a quick audio book with a bit of homework, but it hit hard. I listed out all of the things that I am currently giving a f*ck about and eliminated almost two thirds of the list. Of course, just because you crossed something off a list doesn’t mean you just don’t care anymore, but everything I eliminated went through the whole justification process which put me a step closer. The biggest realization that I had while doing it was that I cared a lot about what others thought in almost every aspect of my life and very little about what I thought.

Whoa. Even after staring at an exhausted list of all the things I am putting time, energy, and money into (which is incredibly eye opening by the way), it still seems impossible to not care what others think. Thats where The Let Them Theory comes in. Even though I am not done reading, I find myself constantly catching myself trying to control or manage others, especially their emotions. Constantly. Like…. once I started noticing it, it’s almost infuriating how much I do it. It is an exhausting habit and until I can kick it, I don’t think I will ever completely eliminate all of those things from my list. Why do I care how other people chose to live their lives? Why do I care if someone gets upset because I am doing something that makes me happy? I am not harming anyone, and my actions aren’t inconveniencing anyone. I know that I stress over things that no one is even thinking about. And the things they are thinking about? Why do they care?

I know that I will keep reading and learning and practicing. I know that it will take work, but I am ready! I want to be free of everything that is holding me down, and everything that my mind tells me is holding me down, even if it’s not. I am ready to release it. Afterall, how can I find my purpose like Martha if my mind is already taken over?

I highly recommend the books I have mentioned above. I am happy to answer any questions you all may have about them, or my journey. There is a lot more that I have learned in the last few weeks, but I can only fit so much into a post! Please let me know if there is anything you all are doing to start your own journeys so we can learn and experiment together!

I love you all, until next time!